Finally approaching the starting line!

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GTO,

I would agree, I think I am "getting there". Although like everyone I still have my down times. I miss my w, and I miss having my family together. I can say those things, without dwelling on them, it is just my life right now.

When I reflect, I can now see that I wasn't as happy as I thought I was after BD. Things weren't as good as they could be. I agree without BD, and DB, we wouldn't become the people we were meant to be. We have to stay the course. That is why it is so important to deal with the negative emotions. Until those are gone, I don't think we can really start to change and grow.

I read your comment about not going to your work party. Before BD I probably would have felt the same way about not going. I am now trying to talk to everyone I come across. For one I am trying to become more social. Another reason is that I want to become a better listener, and also everyone has something to offer us, good or bad. Even though you don't think there was anyone to make small talk with, you never know what they have to offer until you get them to open up. And maybe they don't want to talk to you. Try 180ing them and see what happens.

I would also like to say that I think you are getting there as well. You seem to have a grasp on the process, it is just a matter of time and patience. That first bit of advice that Cadet gave us when we got here, is one of the most important.