I'm sorry you find yourself here. Some of the more experienced members should be along shortly to help you.
I'm newish to all this myself but I would say you need to stop the cake eating.

Sleep, eat, breath. Work on you.

M: 29, H: 31
D: 9
S: 8
T: 13 Y
M: 9 Y
ILYBIDKIILWY 12/09/2012
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Worrying does not empty tomorrow
of its troubles. ~~~ it Emptys today of its strengths