Hi, suckerpunch, Just posted on another thread about anger. I am right there w you. Am angry & irritated at my H's actions--moving out & OW in his life. He doesn't understand the pieces he's leaving & how his decisions will impact our children.
I agree you need an outlet for your emotions. I go to the gym frequenty and climb a jacob's ladder until my legs are burning, then get on the bike and spin until I can't breathe. When I'm home & w my kids it's harder b/c I find I have to NOT be around them & let me do extra technology. BUt, each of us has to find whatever works to channel our anger.
I have decided NOT to do anything while I'm in this stage. This too is a decision. I feel this emotion is VERY STRONG and VERY NEGATIVE. You do not want to act on a negative emotion.
That being said if you are ready to calmly enforce some of the boundaries you spoke of then that may help you to detach, which is good for YOU. There is nothing wrong with deadlines. It gives us a point in the future to aim for. You can always reevaluate and change it but it is good for some of us to have.
Hot tubs are good to relax the soul--I'm jumping in "mine" with a glass of wine now!!! commando
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
