C, His mother was there for him when he was beginning to walk and she caught him when he would teeter and begin to fall. Your life w/your h is to be a wife, companion, lover and friend in order to support him. You are not your man/child's mother and are not there to catch him before he falls. He is an adult and needs to learn the hard knocks that life provides. He needs to face the consequences of his actions. The only way he will learn life's lessons is to experience them over and over until he "gets it".
Step back and watch the show from the curb. We have a sit for you and plenty of popcorn to go around.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
CAigy, I haven't checked in for a bit-- jeez, the writers of ur soap just threw in some interesting twists! As for me, still waiting on the call from Jerry Springer.
Careful when u answer ur door! Who knows who will drop by next!
Much love,
Heathr
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
3 years ago we had a credit card with a $15,000 limit, to which I finally got completly paid off...hate being in debt.
2 days ago I got an email from this company saying "thankyou for re-opening your account, please fill out the customer service survey". I'm sure he didn't know that they have my email on file.
He has also taken $20,000 out of 2 accounts in december one of which was in both our names, my lawyer threatened him with legal action and made him put the $10,000 he took from our joint account back.
He seems to be digging himself this hugh hole and I imagine its gonna get so deep that he can't see daylight.
He was always so proud to be able to say he was debt-free, no credit cards, car payments etc... Now its like he has to have this persona of being a rich guy...our money will be gone before he knows it.
M 41 H 43 M 22 S 18 S 14 D 11 Affair discovered 1/12 He filed 2/12 OW#2 7/12 she lives next door. D pending
C, If this is a joint credit card that he has reopened, you better contact them and request that your name be removed from it now before he racks up the debt. If you don't, you could very well be liable for some of the debt.
Sounds like replay has hit and all time high for him and he's going to be spending every penny he can get his hands on because he feels entitled. Your man may have been proud not to have any debt, the crisis put him on an entirely different track.
Take half the money from the joint bank account and put it in a separate account for you. If you don't...it'll be gone in the wink of an eye.
Protect your assets as best as you can.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks snodderly, My L put a block on that account so neither of us can withdraw any money.
The credit card is in his name, but while the divorce is pending neither one of us is supposed to take on any new debt.
OW is a spender and shes on welfare so he has to have funds available for her. I don't know if it's a blessing or a curse knowing the OW and her own level of insanity?
M 41 H 43 M 22 S 18 S 14 D 11 Affair discovered 1/12 He filed 2/12 OW#2 7/12 she lives next door. D pending
Your h is on the Mother Ship and he'll disappear periodically. It could be that he's in a depressive funk or his attention is on something else. But I can promise you, you will hear from him again very soon. They don't stay MIA for very long.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Ok,so here I am 2 1/2 weeks from my D and I'm scared to death.
I don't remember not being with H. I am so scared to be alone for the first time in my life, I am so scared to be a single mom, I am so scared that financialy I'm screwed...hell I'm even scared to take my wedding rings off and what that means, is this normal?
I know that the kids and I will make this work...but NEVER did I ever think that I'd be at this point in my life getting divorced or being a single parent. I feel lke a complete failure! I guess I just really wish I had a support system here...I miss my family so much.
My son graduates in May from HS and that was alwayssomething H and Ilooked forward to and now all I see is Me and my kids sitting alone while him and his crazy family all together with their fakeness!
Sorry all, an emotional day had to get that out.
M 41 H 43 M 22 S 18 S 14 D 11 Affair discovered 1/12 He filed 2/12 OW#2 7/12 she lives next door. D pending
“So don’t worry about these things, saying, ‘What will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?’ These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. “So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today. (Matthew 6:31-34 NLT)
