Please do not think that pulling back from your W will cause her to believe you've given up on the M. WAW don't thnk that way. In fact, it would be good if you got out and developed a social life outside of family members. You sound too emotionally dependent on your W . How long we're you D from previous M until you started this M?
Don't reach out to her. Don't show neediness b/c that is not attractive to women and especially not a WAW.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!