Thanks Adinva, I went back and read your story from 2011 and it sounded strikingly similar. I can't work out whether we are in serious trouble or not. But deep down I think I probably realise that I feel unhappy about our marriage and therefore we probably are. I am sure that DH would refuse MC but maybe I should suggest it to him and tell him that I am going to go anyway. I am so shocked and surprised to find myself in this situation. Would you be happy to relate what happened to your relationship over the last 10 years? Did it go back to 'normal' before June 2011? Did his IDLY come out of the blue? I hope things are moving in the right direction for you. Your posts finish rather suddenly some time ago, but you are obviously still active on these posts.
Me 49y H 52y T23 y M17 y ??EA June 2012 with younger co-worker children 8-12
