(((mum2three)) sorry, it is a hard place when you think you have it good except for that one little thing that makes you miserable. I was there 10 years ago, and saw my h giving to pretty ow from work the attention he had gotten so lazy at with me. To them he smiled, to me he frowned. To them his mood lightened and he was fun and funny, to me he was a grumpy old man. But he convinced me that we were fine and didn't need counseling, and I decided to not need what I was missing.
At that time, if I could go back I would shake myself by the shoulders and tell myself to get into good individual counseling if H refused MC. We might not have divorced then but I would have known then how really seriously in trouble we were. And I would have had much better tools to manage our relationship in a way that didn't require me to bury my needs.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
