you saying your not-h bought card for ow. my not-h gave me some lovely cards over years - much thought & love. things he could never say himself out loud. he hasn't for a few years now. i still have them - can't look, too painful. love was real...
he never ever ever wanted to talk about something important enough to sit down & do it- make it happen - and make me understand this WAS something important. last year- when he was making plan with ow about a visit- he said to me (FOR FIRST & ONLY TIME IN 35 YEARS) "WE need to talk". if he'd EVER said it- my ears would have pricked up.
he always had the words & ABILITY - IF HE EVER CARED TO USE THEM. HE'S a stinking successful lawyer- he could convince a cat it's a dog- he could make an under educated jury understand an obscure point of law.
he never cared enough to even talk or try (- i guess). that is unfortunate truth i am forced to accept.
it hurts - it makes one "let go" a bit too- like you it's some tiny thing sparking a HUGE REVELATION...
