First - congratulations on your weight loss. The "bomb drop" unleashes chemicals that are very useful to weight loss (I swear I'm going to study the biochemistry of it some day!) so use it to your advantage.
As for the move - you yourself weren't confident about it being a good idea to move in with her, so don't be upset that she feels the same way. It probably is good to maintain separate places right now. That way, too, you can work on always looking good when she sees you, create some mystery about what you're up to when she's not with you, create some longing etc.
Also - are you moving there for a good job for you? If it's a bad career move for you - think twice. Because if you move there, end up unemployed or underemployed, it won't make you an attractive prospect.
You didn't mention kids, so I'm assuming you don't have them? If so, how come two employed adults are having such difficulty with their finances? What do you need to be working on there?
Also - go on FB and look up a guy named Ernest Gagnon - his story will inspire you, I promise.
Be the best YOU can be, my friend, and she will either be drawn back to you, or some other, better woman will appear in your life. Keep the focus on you.
