i think you're on to something. i've wondered many a time how the heck we never argued for 35 years- now i'mt hinking maybe we should have been. certainly for past ten when things were gettin wierd (and h was getting wierd).
anyway- i too (and h) always avoid the conflict- we've not-fought ourselves into some corner and don't know if we'll ever get out.
i totally lack the phrases & technique to control a conflict or conversation. or even begin one in a constructive way. it's become apparent- i ALWAYS lose. it's just a given. i don't think either of us admire that. i'm not good at saying "i want this"or that.
i don't chuck my opinion or stand- i just don't prevail - ever.
maybe that's something about me i can work on- where the heck to begin? have a suggestion maybe? neither of us want to push around the other guy- so we end up just letting him/her go - it's wierd. cripes...
