Should I ask her to move out?

[Mileus]

I have a post under newcomers. Still under moderation, so things take awhile.

Basically, my wife met OM. She says she loves him and for me its ILYBNILWY. We have 3 kids 20, 19, 16 and all at home. We have been together for 14 years. They are her children from a previous, but I have raised them as my own.

She stays with him most nights now, but all her stuff is here. She says this is her home, she says she loves me and that I am her best friend. Only one of our kids knows. He overheard us talking and he just thinks we are separating.

I know she is cake eating, but not responding when she texts feels like I'm following the behavior that caused her to leave. I feel like she should tell all the kids she's leaving and have to move her stuff out. If she really wants him, shouldn't she leave me completely. But, I'm afraid to push her away.