SM34, thank you for your support and words of encouragement. It feels good to know that I’m not alone, and do appreciate even small responses.
My H actually told me to move on with my life. From reading other posts here I know that it is pretty common for WAS to say this. Doesn’t mean that they are not going to freak out when LBS actually starts acting on this. I understand this, but every time I think about my H, I think that this is not going to apply to him. I guess I will have to see…
Originally Posted By: SM34
Show him what divorce look like! We know thats not want you want, but you have to fake it. Be loving and nice to him as you would be with a friend, but don't allow him to get the emotional attention from you that he is used to. Don't tell him what you are up to. Let him stew in his own pile of mess!
Yes, I totally agree. I think that my H doesn’t quite understand how devastating the divorce is going to be, especially considering that he is going to be worth off and will not be able to maintain the same life style. But, I hope that what is going to have a bigger impact for him is not getting the emotional support from me that he is used to. I understand this, but sometimes I just get discouraged. It’s been going on for 6 months now, and I don’t see any signs that he misses it yet. At least he is not showing it.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
