Sandi, why do you say to not have sex. What if she initiates it?
Several reasons. And, I hate to have to tell a newcomer on his first post, but if WAW has been with OM then there is always a chance she might be pregnant. It has happened many times......a woman has sex with OM and learns she is pregnant but she can't M the OM so she gets H to have sex with her....and bingo, he thinks he is the father of new baby.
Then of course the H stands a chance of getting STD if she's been with OM and now she suddenly wants to have sex with H. Please, insist on her getting tested if you believe she's been with anyone else.
Many WAW's tempt the LBH by coming on to him. If they have sex, then she feels she has a certain amount of power over him in the R.....and that he doesn't have the strength to turn her down. After they have sex, she reverts back to her coldness the next day.
Different people have different POV, and it's difficult for a lot of men not to succumb to his WAW who is all nicey-nice. Don't trust her enough to risk your health if she's been with OM. If you don't know "if" she's been with him......don't take chances. No sex is worth that much! Wait it out until you find answers.
That's my opinion.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
