Is this MLC or WAS? Don't know what to do...

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BrightFuture you are certainly NOT on your own here. Many of us are reading all the threads that we can find time for, to gain insight and knoweldge and experience that may help us in our own sitch. Generally, only the veterans will respond to your posts with actually opinions and things to try, the rest of us may read only or occassionally offer a small post (like this one) just to remind you that we are all here for you!
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YOU ARE DEFINITELY NOT ALONE!

It may feel lonely sometimes and I know the feeling of wanting a response, even a line or two, just so yo udon't feel like the whole world is turning against you.

I havent read you whole sitch, but from the last few posts i definitely agree with Suckerpunch. You should be as mysterious as possible! Tell your husband NOTHING! he wants to leave the family, and you have to give him a taste of what that feels like.

We can all safely tell you that the walk away spouse does NOT have the slightest idea what divorce or separation will look like. They often think it is exactly who you are now, where they can come to the house and go as they please, you are still waiting for them, you have not moved on and found someone etc.. They think it will be like this forever, Essentially they think you are the kids will all stay the same, and only HE will move on and found someone he thinks makes him happier.

Show him what divorce look like! We know thats not want you want, but you have to fake it. Be loving and nice to him as you would be with a friend, but don't allow him to get the emotional attention from you that he is used to. Don't tell him what you are up to. Let him stew in his own pile of mess!