M38,H39 M:16Y BD:8/12 OWDB:11/12 S:11/12-5/13 "Temp" home:6/13 OW dropped:9/13 "I love you":12/13 H ring on:2/14 Depression back:5/15 "I'm done:" 7/15 H moved out: 3/16 H moved back: 12/16 Working on us: 3/17
I know how you feel, I'm sorry...my W went through OMs like kleenex...I would like to think that the OP churning is a good thing, no one is sticking....that's what I told myself at least (I think W is done with that, but not sure).
Hang in there!!
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
The anxiety of one more person is frustrating blow to the day, but yes I am way glad it's that and not a full blown relationship with someone. It's also doesn't hurt as much because he isn't all lovey dovey/relationship with them, even though they are to him. Really sad and pathetic that someone would be okay with being used like that. I guess it's good too because all it does it push my feelings for him further away.
I would just love to send them all a FB group message and say, remember to get your annual STD checkup, or at least check with each other. Yes, I think I'm hilarious
I do like that no relationship is forming, and it really just confirms where he is at. I get these odd moments where I wonder if it really is MLC, maybe I just want it to be MLC so I have something to blame, but then he goes and totally redeems himself.
M38,H39 M:16Y BD:8/12 OWDB:11/12 S:11/12-5/13 "Temp" home:6/13 OW dropped:9/13 "I love you":12/13 H ring on:2/14 Depression back:5/15 "I'm done:" 7/15 H moved out: 3/16 H moved back: 12/16 Working on us: 3/17
Idk, I have seen so much with W's working herself out of the tunnel, it's kind of like my own detachment journey...2 steps forward, one back...I just do an "internal" "whatever" roll of the eyes with her backslides, forgive, and enjoy and validate the "redemptions" for what they are in the moment.
Oh the things I have thought about posting on fb, her hook-up sites, etc....so glad I didn't though.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
Yup, I'm with you. What good would it do? I only see bad coming from it. I have my file if I ever need it legally, but that's about it. Kind of sad this last one is married with a child.
What do you think about the Oedipus Complex in MLC? All these women are older than him. Maybe easier? They're more vulnerable and easier for him to conquer without commitment? Or is there a reason he would be going for old women and act appalled by men who go for much younger women?
As I've said before, likely that both his parents were very messed up, emotionally unavailable during his childhood. Likely that he witnessed his maternal grandmother abusing his mother as a young child, physically and emotionally. I feel like he has always had this white-knight mentality when it comes to women. He goes for women who would be more vulnerable, over-weight, older, lonely, etc. He feels I am way above him.
M38,H39 M:16Y BD:8/12 OWDB:11/12 S:11/12-5/13 "Temp" home:6/13 OW dropped:9/13 "I love you":12/13 H ring on:2/14 Depression back:5/15 "I'm done:" 7/15 H moved out: 3/16 H moved back: 12/16 Working on us: 3/17
W went primarily for younger men from what I saw back in the days I bothered....I could speculate all day, but what were the drivers (aside from fantasy, power, control, affairing down and "not T^2")?
Idk, and won't until she tells me, if she ever does. Not altogether sure I really want to know anymore..."whatever"...
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
As I've said before, likely that both his parents were very messed up, emotionally unavailable during his childhood. Likely that he witnessed his maternal grandmother abusing his mother as a young child, physically and emotionally.
I would bet this is something he is trying to resolve somehow, I know W's abuse is a factor...FWIW...
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
LOL anything and everything to reassure myself that I didn't spend 13 yrs of my life with a guy who is actually an a-hole right? There has to be a logical reason for this.
He seems to be playing with fire. Co-workers and now someone who is married? Train wreck up ahead.
M38,H39 M:16Y BD:8/12 OWDB:11/12 S:11/12-5/13 "Temp" home:6/13 OW dropped:9/13 "I love you":12/13 H ring on:2/14 Depression back:5/15 "I'm done:" 7/15 H moved out: 3/16 H moved back: 12/16 Working on us: 3/17
I'm so sorry, Hopper. Know that you're an amazing woman and a wonderful wife. MLC really IS mental illness. It all [censored] but he's searching for something he will never find. You know this. He's already found "it" because "it" is you.
Big hugs, GG
You're braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. -Christopher Robin to Pooh
Romans 12:12 Rejoice in your hope, be patient in suffering, persevere in prayer.
