So earlier I start thinking about how I need to get my butt moving and clean up the house.
Good grief! Don't overthink stuff like cleaning your house, just do it! You need to DETACH, that means quit worrying about how she's going to perceive every little thing you do!! Why in the world are you worrying about what she's going to think about you cleaning your house?? Just do it, and do it for YOU. As long as you keep obsessing about her you will just keep driving her farther and farther away. Be strong and independent, not clingy and needy.
Quote:
Her: No its about something for *oldest kid* please Me: Text it Her: Its easier to talk please Me: No, you made me text all those times I wanted to talk to you on the phone or in person. Her: Wow whatever Me: Text whatever it is and I'll look at it Her: Nevermind Me: Every time I get on the phone at work I get interrupted, which is why I said I don't want to keep trying to talk on phone Me: Why are you getting like that with me? I'm willing to see whatever it is you're asking about for *oldest kid). Her: Ok. Need is glasses didn't know if you saw them but whatever. Me: No, I haven't seen them in awhile. Her: K ME: OK, I understand. I can't talk at work, but I'll call you after work. What would be a good time?
Before you do anything like this ask yourself two questions-
1. What is my goal? 2. Is what I am about to do/ say bringing me closer to my goal or pushing me farther away?
