And find someone to talk about it with. For me it seems like the more I discuss it the more I can accept it.
^^^I totally agree, this is great advice! It has to be someone that is not attached to the situation and doesn't have any contact with the spouse because it's important to know you can say anything and say it openly with no chance of it getting back to the spouse. In my case it was an old friend I made contact with who it turns out had a WAW years ago too. I totally spilled my guts to him and it felt so good not only to get it out there, but to get feedback from someone who actually went through it too. It was extremely therapeutic and I am forever in his debt. An interesting sidebar, his W left 3 years ago and they've recently started dating again.
