I'm sorry to read that your d is not feeling well. If she slept in the bed w/him...maybe he'll catch her bug! I can't believe he didn't check her temperature. It's important to do that when they feel hot and their temperatures can spike so quickly.
Wishing, he is really trying to get under your skin and he is so transparent in what he's attempting to do. I'm so glad you are standing up for yourself and not allowing him to dictate your every move.
Yes, you are so right...he needs to learn that he can't have things both ways whenever he wants them to be. Another lesson he will need to learn.
I hope your little one feels better soon.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.