Marriage is a mess

[Marriageblues]

I agree with you, AnotherStander. I want her to stop seeing this other guy, and actually asked her to a month or so ago, and she flat out said she wouldn't. I'm hoping once we start counselling that's something we can address. Everything I read about open marriages and polyamory say it's not a good idea until you've worked on your own issues and have a stable marriage.