If you aren't comfortable w/the lawyer you saw yesterday, by all means interview another one.
As for getting ahead of yourself asking questions about finances, that was bs. That was one of the first things my lawyer and I discussed because you may become liable for some of the joint debt and you need to know what to do.
I do think he may be correct on the house issue...check it out.
Good luck!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
