Into The Sunset

[25yearsmlc]

Tad,

I THINK I told you this story but maybe not. It hits me now and then when I go into a "what if?" Mode about career choices or marital ones.

I worked one summer in a children w/cancer camp. A 10 y/o girl named Becky told me something I find VERY useful.

She said: "I used to ask God, 'why ME, God, why do I have cancer? Why? Why? WHY??? -- Then I realized, 'I don't know WHY, I just do! So I'm going to have fun while I feel well enough."

And though that was her last summer on earth, it was a great one. She said it was "The best summer of [her] life!" I recall thinking "this kid is wise beyond her years" ...and bemoaning how unfair life can be.

So when I found myself spinning lengthy "Supreme Court" type arguments & questions for why my h was doing what he was doing (and constantly checking MY reasoning for what HE was doing/thinking/feeling,)

or why he should NOT do or feel or think whatever he did, felt or thought, I finally remembered Becky's words to me.

"I DON'T KNOW WHY...IT JUST IS..."

and we have to have fun (=GAL & move forward) while we are here. Since you have sons watching you, it's even more crucial that you simply accept what is, and GAL.

Part of it will help you financially, and that helps other things, & reduces negative emotions, like how I feel better about myself when I am in good shape and older smaller clothes fit me again...


and we hammer the GAL b/c we know from experience, it works.

Trust us on that.

So if you are both Tads, and not one "real sad Tad" and a "fake happy Tad", then why not spend more time being the healthier happier Tad?

Sure, we feel what we feel. I don't suggest repression as a cure.

But I'm telling you Tad, happiness IS a choice and

where the head goes, the heart will follow...if we let it.


So work the DB program - b/c you only get one life and b/c IT works.

Trust us on that, too.