If you're both horrible at budgeting then it might be worthwhile to look into a mediator. It can also bring the reality of the money situation into focus for both of you.
Did she have strengths in areas which you didn't and carried the load on that? Not everyone is a money person but I think she should be in on the planning and decisions because if you D she is going to have to figure it out.
Safe and trusting, if you decide to work out the budgeting together to you think you can keep things respectful?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
