The goal(s) are to fix the finances in an equitable way. A friendly partnership. We each are horrible at budgeting (always have been). The past 7 or so years I've pretty much handled everything (made sure we had money in the accts) which put me in a "one up" power position. Not intentionally. She, respectfully, has no clue of all that. I've asked for help from her throughout the years, yet it always fell on deaf ears. The other goal, for me at least, is for her to see me in a safe / trusting way / more comfortable (for the sake of at least friendship).
More of an answer than you probably wanted... But there ya go.
In case I haven't said this to you in awhile, Thank you Bug! (((((Bug))))). <----- a bug hug.
