H and I both got a lot out of Retrovaille but I focussed SOLELY on ME and MY WORK and did not
look at h to see "if he's getting it" or "doing HIS work" b/c I knew that was a bad idea and I only controlled me.
But maybe that was a good example for him OR maybe he'd have done his work anyhow, b/c he sure did. I wasn't positive of how much we had benefitted (I knew for sure some of it was helpful)
but on the final day my h had a real breakthru and that itself has helped us for the past 4 years.
Stay in your sandbox and out of his. That's my advice. WE tend to have more of our own work than we think, when we bravely look inside.
Retrovaille will do it's thing. You do not have to help it. In fact it'll make it weird for you both if you try to assist them.
Do YOUR WORK and let them do theirs and him do his...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
