Hey LIS! Good to hear from you! Anything new on your front?
I know what you're saying about arguing like a lawyer. I think I used to be like that, but I've worked really hard and have done a good job of adjusting that. I used to be very defensive when he would do this same thing, accusing me of something I was certain I didn't do. It used to be important to me that he see that he was wrong and admit it. I mean who wants their S to think horrible things about them, right? Especially when they aren't true. Unfortunately, H seems to need to do that. It's "part of his personality."
I wish I felt more like you do, that he's motivated because he feels like something is going on. Frankly, I think it's just that he wants sex. It was mentioned several time in our discussion. Usually I would have given in by now, but I haven't so he's in a bit of a dry spell.
It's hard to say which is the bigger problem -- the fact that he considers it reasonable to degrade because it's his personality type, or the fact that I'm supposed to continue to be loving/affectionate in spite of it. It addresses my trust issue, though -- with his formula, trust isn't a requirement.
So in my LBS scenarios, I feel like you might LIS, that I could do all sorts of work on myself to save the M, but then not be able to make my M work anyway because I can't tolerate H's behavior.
