He thinks he only has 2 options: 1. Stay in the marriage where he will be miserable but the kids will be happy or 2. Leave the marriage hope the kids will be happy because he will be happy. He doesn't realize that there is a 3 rd option of staying and building a new marriage. I mentioned it to him and he that's not an option.
Ouch. That really stings and my W basically told me the same thing this past week (and we went to Retrov in June).
That said, I hope you have a wonderful weekend. Prepare yourself to WORK! As with DB, focus on you, not your H. Try not to have any expectations as they just make it harder. When it comes to the material, try to keep an open mind. You are going to be working on communicating, but you are also going to be working on you big time. There's a lot of self discovery in the initial weekend, but the followup is just as important.
