Also, I had asked H at one point earlier in the evening to spell out for me what he wanted. He printed for me some notes he typed up. I want to say that I understand and appreciate the effort he put into it, as I realize that he is trying to communicate.
But the very first sentence is "I want to be committed to CV and know there is nothing either of us can do to lose the others love." And later, "I hope for CV to be able to ignore my 'disrespectful' habits." There are several other themes like this, with him wanting to be loved in spite of his poor behavior.