I think this is great RLA. I really do. Smile came to me too. Take baby steps as they come and don't overbear it. The week home as GH says should me made a good one, but don;t pressure yourself on it to make it perfect as that puts everyone on eggshells too. Just take it as some time togther to be pleasant. Let him leave with a good impression but don't pressure yourself.

GH31 gives you, and everyone great advice.

I have similar sitch as you GH31. Many bizarre things. I look through where you were and where you are.

M17 yrs.
me49
xW47
d15
d11

BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out)
Therapy 9 months (tried 2)
BD2- May/12(sep)
Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50
Sold home - Aug/13
Court #2 - Dec/13
Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again
We settled.