I didn't tell her about the party. Our friend had already invited her, and she expressed to him that she would need to find a babysitter. I simply offered her my babysitting services.
Last night, my W joined D6 and I for dinner at a Sushi place. I gave her the offer by saying "D and I will be going at 6:00, your welcome to join us". She called earlier in the day saying she wasn't sure if she would be able to make it. I said, "well if you make it great, if not, no big deal". She phoned again just before 6:00 to say she was coming. I think I was doing a really good job DBing at dinner. Of course, it was a little awkward sitting across the table from my wife and acting like we were just aquintances. I acted content, not overly excited that she was there, but interested in what she had to offer durinig conversation. She offered up some information about her daily life, but still was guarded a little I think. She told me a little bit about her Birthday plans. Today is her birthday, and I wasn't invited to any of the 3 days that she will be celebrating, of course that makes sense given our sitch....but yes, literally 3 days she plans on celebrating! I thought about it lastnight and realized, I don't buy presents or give cards for "friends" or even family members who don't include me in their birthday plans. Why would I do that in this situatuion? So, this morning I simply sent her a text saying, "Happy Birthday. I hope this turns out to be your best year yet". She replied quickly with a thank you. I will leave it at that. Now to work more on me. Today the sun is out and I am feeling great!
