ha - I'll keep my "better use of the trampoline" comments to myself.
I struggled (and if I'm honest STILL) with this too. The idea that you seriously took her complaints and worked on them and now you can't show HER....
.... but you still can.. just not directly.
You and her have mutual friends, and you are still part of her family. If the changes are true and are good, they will notice and IT WILL get back to your w.
What she does with that info is up to her.
I'm hesitant to suggest this - because part of me just says to keep your mouth shut..
.. but if you are TRULY concerned (no expectations, no selfish reasons) than you could always ask her SIL.
BUT you have to be very careful with that.. and you have to be okay with the consequences of it too.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
