I'm going to start cleaning up. Politely move/organize her/kids stuff and just clean up. Do it for me b/c I don't want a mess; not doing it for her.
At the same time I've also thought about leaving it messy.
Definitely clean it all up. Take all the toys and put them in boxes, make it look like you're making it easier for her to get out. When you do see her, ask her when she plans on moving everything out. You want to give her the impression that you're moving on. Here are some of the DB tips for reference:
12. Act "as if" you are moving on with your life with or without them and that you are going to be okay. Keep a good attitude.
17. You need to make your partner think that you have had an awakening and, as far as you are concerned, you are going to move on with your life, with or without your spouse.
19. No matter what you are feeling TODAY, only show your spouse happiness and contentment. This can confuse some of them b/c it is not what they expected. Show your spouse someone he/she would want to be around all the time, somebody that can be attractive and fun to be with. That somebody is you! Don't overkill in your attempts to outshine another person your spouse may be having an A with (if there is OP in the picture) to the point of looking like your attempts are "fake" b/c your spouse will see through all of that.
That's the image you want to project.
Originally Posted By: jzoom
So is the intent here to show Ed that I'm GALing or to have a clean place to bring new women?
The intent is just to show that you're moving on. Let her fill in the blanks with her imagination. She may very well wonder if you're planning on dating, if she does then so be it. If she asks you then be vague in your responses. Say something like "I'm still thinking things through".
