We will get by...

[wishing, hoping]

Thanks everyone. My son told me a few weeks ago he was going to start a journal to write down things that happen so he can talk about them in counseling. I asked him if that was the counselor's idea and he said no. I told him I thought it was fantastic idea and should help him immensely. He started to show it to me and I told him right then if he WANTED me to look at it I would but by no means is he REQUIRED to show it to me. I told him that journal was for his eyes only.

I told S that mom was upset with dad but to not worry about it and that we would work it out. I do see S as trying to fill the void as the man in the family, but I still want him to be a kid and I am trying to do everything to encourage him to be a kid and not grow up too fast.

Yes, I already made the lawyer aware of the situation. I don't know if we can get him out or not. We would have to go back to court and that's 6-8 weeks down the road from the filing date. I am hoping this will make him chill out. At least for the present time.

I also explained to H that when we are separated he will have no control over what bathroom my kids use or where they take a shower or what soap they use. I don't think he really gets it.