What do you mean he's affectionate but never touches you? To me being affectionate requires physical touch, so I'm confused by that.
Yes, me too. I wonder if he has always been like this and it is just not the way he expresses affection. On reflection, however I think he has fallen 'out of love' and that is why he no longer initiates physical contact; except a hug when he feels guilty!. However, over the last 2 days this is changing. I have snapped into the confident woman I was 6 months ago, and he seems to have responded. He is really pulling his weight at home helping out and initiating conversation but I think we have a way to go before physical affection and intimate converstion return. I think this will involve him falling back in love with me.
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Try filling your H's love tank. Hopefully he'll start wanting to fill yours.
Yes, I have both been doing this, although I am not entirely sure what his LL is so have been trying them all sequentially.
One awful thing about a month ago, I competely lost it when he camea back from a drink with OW and hugged me. I pulled away and asked why he was so secretive about her. He ignored me and I lost the plot and told him that I hated him. I have never said that to anyone before ever. He brought this up a few weeks later. I was remorseful and felt terrible. I told him that I had felt very confused and that I had not hated him but I hated the secrecy. I think he was very very hurt but I also wonder if he was finding reasons to vindicate our failing marriage. I would be in a much better position if I had not lost control. I don't really know if there is anything specific I can do about that now.
Me 49y H 52y T23 y M17 y ??EA June 2012 with younger co-worker children 8-12
