You are so brave. I know how hard that is to defend your kids when your H is acting like a beast. The easier thing is to step back and allow the beast to have his way. You did such a good job protecting your children. I hope you know that.
Your H seems to be spinning out of control like a whirling dirvish. Let him spin, but call the police if he threatens to hurt you verbally or grabs you again. In Ohio, domestic violence laws are very strict and he WILL be arrested if he makes any verbal threats to physically harm you and/or lays a finger on you. The judge is aware of the situation at home and HAS to see, unless he's a complete idiot, how volatile your H is.
I suggest calling your attorney today and letting him know exactly what happened. If it happens again, you have some back up.
He definitely sounds like a true "Father Knows Best!!" ha ha.
Much Love,
Heather
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