sam, A large majority of the posters here are "fixers". It's not so much about being controlling, but we tend to jump in and fix things no matter what they are. One of the hardest lessons to be learned is to step back and allow our spouses to stumble, fall and then hit the brick wall a number of times before they learn the lessons.
I'm glad she let you know about the dog and her trip. That's more than most get in the way of communication when their mlcers are orbiting earth.
She is like a teenager bragging about everything on FB. She's hoping that you are reading it so that you will feel the loss and know that she's moved on. As for the op, try not to assume anything about that person. Assumptions will creat tailspins and you don't need that.
Take it day by day and do what you need to do to keep yourself healthy.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
