Please Help Me

[Intact]

Thank you GH31 I appreciate your comments and kind words.

I'm trying my best...

[Intact]

Well after 2 counselling sessions my wife has told me there's no point in continuing as if she stayed with me it would "always be a loveless, sexless marriage"

The more I read the more I see that this is a case of a walkaway wife - from what I gather they rarely come back?

I really am devastated as I was determined to work on this to save our little family.

I really hope I can get taken off moderation soon as I'm very much at a time when I desperately need advice...

[Soul.Searching]

It's hard to tell so early on if its MLC or WAS. If you look back, there was probably signs you missed or tried to deny somewhere along the way.
Ultimately it doesn't really make a difference right now. You need to concentrate on you and your son. GAL and detach. Do not beg or chase.
Take it one day At a time. Focus on you, the only person you can control. The outcome is not foreseeable.

[Intact]

I am officially the most confused man on the planet. Just before she left for her counselling session she came over to me and gave me 2 hugs. She said "I'm sorry for doing this too you" to which I replied "don't be sorry, just don't give up" - "I won't she replied" tears rolling down her face...

I wonder if there's something she wants to tell the counseller that she is afraid to tell me?

[Intact]

Well my Wife today walked away... she said her mind has never been clearer (is this typical for Walkaway Wives?)
She has taken her wedding ring off, packed a bag and moved into her Parents house.

We told our Son together and he is distraught. Keeps on asking me why Mummy doesn't want to live with us anymore...

I presume this is now a dead end and she won't be coming back?

[Juanton]

Sorry to hear that all of this is going on. Unfortunately being new myself I don't really have any advice to give. But will be following your post and praying for a positive outcome for you and your family.

[SM34]

Intact, I am sorry to here that. Don't give up jus yet. Your W may be confused and not know what she wants right now.

I really recommend you start a new thread in the New Commers section where more people will chime in and help you through this.

See over there!

[SM34]

Oh and yes "My mind had never been clearer" is common I think.

My wife said the same thing. However, 2 months later, she has calmed down and is very friendly and I do think she looks back sometimes. I have not changed enough for her to consider reconcilliation just yet, but I think no one like to break up a family, even your W.

You need to focus on your self and become the husband only a fool would leave. She will have opportunities to notice your changes and when she starts to look back at what happened, she may consider trying your marriage again.

Make sure you start a new thread in New Commers. You are not getting half as much help here is you would there!

[Cadet]

I presume this is now a dead end and she won't be coming back?

Well if it is a dead end maybe she will be baxk.
But it wont be on YOUR time schedule it will be on hers.

[woundedfool]

Not really sure if this is ettiquite to hijack a thread. But my situation is similar to Intact's first post.

Wife of soon to be 10 years, I have home after a work trip... she told me she is getting a divorce. Never had probelms before, intamacy was great, but our time was spread thin between our careers recently and I have been totally absent for Jan and Feb (travel for work).

She actually filed for D before I got home. I came across the DR book last week and could not put it down. I have embraced the 180 as well at that list of 37 things (I have it on my phone, and a paper copy with me).

My question is: She moved out 2 weeks ago (again, the day I got home). But last night she came over while we were out and left something at the house for our child. It made me feel pretty uncomfortable (I have totally respected her privacy, made ZERO attempt to go to her apartment) I am trying not to contact her, but can someone help me to address how I deal with telling her I am uncomfortable with how she did that. (or do I just let it go?)