I didn't waste my time trying to convince him he's in MLC. I said, "well, if you don't think you are, then that settles it". I don't believe a word of it, but whatever. And yes, we are the problem in their minds.

For me, the limbo stems from needing closure. I have a life-I go out with friends when he has the kids for the weekend, spend lots of time with my kids, I'm redecorating my house and doing many things on my to-do list that I never did when we were together and married. Plus, I work full time, so my dance card is rather full. I don't know what he is going to do with all of this. I have given him 'permission' but have no idea what his timeline is.

You're braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.
-Christopher Robin to Pooh

Romans 12:12 Rejoice in your hope, be patient in suffering, persevere in prayer.