He is not giving you a choice he is giving you an ultimatum.
I think your email response should be something along these lines,
H it would be my preference to meet again to negotiate terms however I can not guarantee that our meeting with mediator will create an agreement. I hope you will reconsider your terms for meeting however I do understand if they are unwavering.
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13