thanks for the input. It is always nice to know that there are others in similar sitch's.
So, today my W's reality of separation/divorce happens again. One of our close friends is having a birthday party. My friend phones me with an invite, with the caveat that he also invited my W. I say to him, "thanks. I will defintely consider it"..... I had NO intention of considering it .
He knows our sitch very well. He says to me that he really wants us both to come, "everyone in the group misses you guys". I expressed to him that in all honesty, I wasn't coming if my W was attending. I told him I would really like to go, but this is the reality of our situation. There is going to be lines drawn in the sand between my W and I regarding friends. This birthday will be one of the first. Unfortunately, I don't think am really at a point where I am wanting to socilaze in mixed company with my WAW. Maybe that suxck, but that's life.
So, I sent W a quick text saying, "hey I would love to watch D6 while you go to the birthday party". She replies, "what, aren't you going"? My reply was yaaaa, probably not. She seemed almost surprised I didn't plan on attending. I was surprised she expected that we would both attend!!!.....the woman seems to have no sense of how our divorce or separation is going to look. It is her, right? I mean, is it a common thing for Married couples to separate or divorce and carry on with their social lifes almost like nothing happened? Very bizzare to me, how she feels this is going to go. I wonder if it has anything to do with the "friendship" approach really messing with her perspective on how I will handle this...man, I guess that could be it?????
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