Hi AS, yes I have the 5 Love Languages book. My W and I started reading it together in December but she told me she didn't want to any more because it was too painful to see how I had stopped meeting her needs. I continued for a little while on my own, but stopped during the holidays. Need to restart... I have also just realized that a 180 just means doing the opposite (or different) from what I had been doing. My approach of just giving her a lot of space is not working. If anything it seems to make her feel more neglected. It IS like a dance FY, thanks for that analogy.
We used to talk endlessly about anything. She's a huge talker, I am somewhat less of a talker but we meshed pretty well on that end. Now there are long periods of silence where I get uncomfortable because I can't think of anything to talk about. She's challenging me because she's not initiating conversation, and I'm failing. This is a topic where I think I can make some quick progress. I noticed that when we talk for extended periods, we seem to just feel closer.
OK, item 1: more conversation. Thanks guys. I'll report back.
