Another Stander thank you for the words of encouragement. Right now that helps alot.
I'm working my hardest on detaching only at maybe 60% right now though. This AM my MIL had a procedure and I had a bad dream about it so when I awoke I wanted to be there for it. So I surprised my W and FIL by showing up after I dropped the kids off at school. I figured I was truly going for my MIL so it was ok. W and I talked while waiting and had good conversation. She did start to hit on a few subjects that involved R and I told her I didn't want to discuss that. I think it went well and I was able to show my support for my MIL.
