Confused by WAS

[RickC]

Grizz I am in a similiar situation as you and I feel your pain. I have always been the provider and my W wants out, and I too feel like if I do say or act then I am a doormat and she will take her time and leave when she has all her ducks in a row. She currently doesn't have a job but she has started to make some financial seperation such as her own cell phone and removed her car from our insurance.

The way I look at things right now is I am giving myself and her time to sort things out, it does work both ways. Even if I had all the finances figured out and I could leave tomorrow I don't think I want to. At the moment she is probably expecting me to move out and I am slowly working on it but I am working at about the pace she is working on getting a job to support our current and agreed upon finances.

I have struggled with the idea of dragging my feet because I worry W might see that as me forcing myself to stay ect ect. But also if I leave quick and let her crash and burn she may resent me for allowing that and I don't want that especially with our kids staying with her half the time (we agreed to 50/50)

So I am playing it by ear right now and I am trying to come up with more ways to GAL while still spending the time I can with the kids. Hang in there Grizz I will add you to watch and we can help keep each other in check.

Rick