Thanks for checking in along with the prayers. Can always use wisdom and peace regardless of our sichs. 8)
Things around the house have been kind of the same. No negative or positive interactions to speak. W and kids are off from work / school b/c of snow. W asked for me to text her when I arrived at work, so she knows I made it. So I did in an updbeat positive manner. I've been keeping my PMA.
For some reason, a little anger crept in this morning (not just b/c they're off and I'm at work ). I think it has to do with honesty / deceit. Per my question, I feel a bit deceitful with the whole separate checking acct, but hey, I need to CYA & my pay check is still going into our joint acct. More of it seems to be stemming from the whole, she was / is still in contact with OM, lack of honesty on her part. What was I expecting then and now? I keep trying to remind myself, be her friend. Let her make her own choices and deal with whatever happens, while I make and deal with my own. A recent post from Regretful regarding how OMs fulfill unmet needs of the WAS has me thinkiing. Wow, in my sich OM is a player + W primary LL is WOA = Cards stacked against a chance of R. Then again, I am the better option comparatively (not judgementally) speaking; and what about my unment / unasked for needs within the old R? Some of this is rambling, I need to get it out of my head. 8) Thanks for listening.
A few other random notes: I haven't look at those books you suggested Tori, for some reason there's something about Dyer that doesn't agree with me. I am glad that his work has helped you. I'm thinking of "After the Affair." Simply to help me get past what has / is happening with W and also with an earlier R I had where I was cheated on.
I think I need to listen to what many of you are saying in regards to how I'm doing. I am doing pretty well, considering the sich I /we are in. Thank you for the ongoing support / confidence boost.
Reading other sichs is so helpful and helps with self reflection (eg Bug's recent posts about asking for needs).
). I think it has to do with honesty / deceit. Per my question, I feel a bit deceitful with the whole separate checking acct, but hey, I need to CYA & my pay check is still going into our joint acct. More of it seems to be stemming from the whole, she was / is still in contact with OM, lack of honesty on her part. What was I expecting then and now? I keep trying to remind myself, be her friend. Let her make her own choices and deal with whatever happens, while I make and deal with my own.
