This distant/pursuit dynamic [censored]. When she pursues, I want to latch onto her like grim death and not let go. Patience, patience, patience and self control!
LOL! Yes, unfortunately our minds tell us that's the right thing to do. This is one of those times that DB'ing is counterintuitive.
Originally Posted By: Grizz
I know there are others out there that have a WAS that have said they want a divorce but either cannot or will not move out. This is my sitch. In the broader scheme I guess this could be a good thing as it gives her more time to change her mind and to see the changes I have made. However, it is so hard knowing how she feels and what she has said to me. The other thing is that she goes on as if nothing is wrong. Still has pleasant conversations with me, texts me and calls for nothing terribly important.
My W was similar, after BD we seemed to be getting along really well and I became convinced that she was changing her mind about leaving. We were doing things together, talking more, even ML more than before BD. We went to MC, everything seemed to be going great. But in MC she just kept saying she saw no future for our M and that she didn't "want to try" even though it seemed like she was trying hard. This is actually fairly common with "low energy" WAS's, they can act like everything is fine while still planning their "escape".
