Well I am coming up on the the 6 month mark that is supposed to be the time that my W is supposed to tell us what she is going to do.
I'm not sure if you're experiencing this with your W, but mine has been extremely forgetful since BD. She was never that way before, I think part of it is the fog that the WAS gets in and part of it may be the perimenopause she's going through. Anyway, it would be much like my W to say "I will make a decision at 6 months and let you and the kids know" only to completely forget she said it a week later. So I wouldn't ask your W about it or put any kind of pressure on her. Don't be surprised if she never brings it up.
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I want her to give it more time but then I don't know if that will look like pursuit.
No matter what she says, just validate her emotions. Don't agree or disagree, just tell her you understand why she feels that way and you support her decision. If she says she wants a D then just validate her. Don't ask for timelines, don't help with paperwork, etc. Leave it up to her. She may very well say she wants a D, but that doesn't mean she'll pursue it.
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I think that when it is a D it will be over for the chances of R...
One of the guys here is fond of saying that D is just a piece of paper. The chances of R don't go away at D.
