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[Soul.Searching]

That's what I don't get about this site. Yes, it is divorce busting and not divorce promoting. From the book and this site I got that DB was about working on yourself to save your marriage BUT that many people who fail to save their marriages are still classed as a success. They saved themselves.

I don't feel that around here a lot. I feel a lot of people look down on others who decide they are done. I don't like that about this site. People should still be supported on their journey, regardless on if they have given up.
I find it strange but interesting too, I get this feeling from a few people who failed to save their marriages. Maybe they tried longer? I don't know.
There's a lot of factors to concider in each and every individual sitch.

I'm not saying we should tell people to give up, it's not something I would do (Unless violence or something of the like we're concerned.) but we should be able to sympathize.

Trust, once lost can truly be a humongous struggle to get back and it can't even begin, unless there is complete honesty at all times. Even then,.,,