What I'm learning from H stages, disappointment.

[albamarie]

Today was my D's 19th b-day, my youngest and only girl. It was her first b-day with out her F, who was home just not present. He did enjoy some brunch goodies once we cleaned up and left the kitchen.

Yesterday evening H went from my chair in my room to my bed, laid down for the first time in weeks and asked me to wake him in an hour, as I walked out the door he said, I don't know how to be human anymore!

An hour later he woke up, sat in living room w/me and asked me to debug his computer. As he walked out for work he said thank you for the computer, and good by.

Today was met with more talk about the computer and a little more eye contact.
He actually left the living room and sat at the dinning room table w/computer, and when S21 fixed it h made a few comments.

Words, real words, but this was on top of the fact that he was very into his own self soothing way, at he computer game for 9 hrs. The evening was met with another thank you, and another good by.

He left in the same clothes of several days, no shower, no dinner, no teeth brushed, no coffee, no lunch. But, for the first time he asked for a box of the less expensive cigarettes I picked up in In. to save (lots) of money. He would not ask about them before.

I'm just holding my own here and trying not to step in/over my own boundaries. It's my nature to want to jump in and have a hand on everything, but I have to let my little boy grow up.