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[FloydMan]

Hey CV,
Not to add fuel to the fire but I do want to say that I did take that as a bit of lashing out too. Maybe just the wording is subjective but I was uncomfortable. As much as I complain and voice my hurt in my sitch ultimately I want things to hopefully turn around and save the M. This is a me exercise and for me to survive no matter what, but it is Divorce Busting and not Divorce Promoting.

Now, you often mention and note you are the WAS, yet still trying to figure things out which is admirable. But, then you criticize your H for not reacting to your leaving the M. Are you WASing to get him to react or hoping he would react? If he did, what would you do then, still leave? Maybe he sees this or feels this. Or, maybe he sees it as an idle threat. Maybe he is 180ing himself and not reacting as we are taught to and just accept and agree. This goes back to his "I understand" response when you moved bedrooms. He may not have been taught it but maybe he has that natural ability. Or, on the flip side you say he is a liar, so maybe he doesn't understand and is really hurting inside too.