Into The Sunset

[MHL]

Tad,
Wow, how timely that it was that I popped onto the board today!!!

I've been thinking back to the time when I first arrived on this site. So many posters (PEI, Brooklyn, MHL, Eric, Punkin, Grace.....) have disappeared and no longer post here. I'm wondering if I should do the same.

Just wander off into the sunset...

Tad

First, we have not wandered off, we have just returned to LIFE as we knew it before our spouses when batchit crazy. Try to remember back to when you could not squeeze one more thing into your day, you were so busy with life that you could not imagine having the time to read and post on an online community daily if not hourly?? I can tell you that LIFE will return to normal if you let it but it takes TIME, and for each of us that amount of time is different.

Second, I do owe this wonderful place so much. I do credit this place with saving my life, however we do move on and hopefully the fact that you do see people stop posting is testimony to the fact that YOU will be happy again. YOU will find peace in your life. YOU will busy your life with other things beside this place. Success is not measured by those whose marriages are reconciled but rather by those that save themselves and find that place of contentment, peace and happiness within themselves.

I can tell you that some of the posters that you mention that I am still in contact still have moments of sadness or memories of pain. We also see what our ex-spouses are doing or have done and it might call some of those feelings back to the surface but the moments are fleeting at best. They come and we allow ourselves to experience them, process those feelings and then get on with our lives. It is part of our healing that allows us to deal with these feelings that come for a visit now and then.

You too will drift from this place as you get on with YOUR LIFE. When that happens you will not have space in your life to look at the milestones in your ex-wife's life, you will simply be too busy.

I will try to post an update, possibly tonight. My message to you and to anyone else reading this has not changed from when I was actively posting here.....

Save yourself first......and TIME can be your friend if you allow it. The thing about time is that you will not realize it until the time has past.

Hope this helps!!

Cheers