Limbo Land

[jzoom]

Alright, I'm taking it this way from a DB standpoint, and I need to wrap my head around it and live it.

She hasn't moved out and isn't, she's having an affair. DR says in the affairs part about letting the affiar run its course and the rules of DB say not to ask questions, just give time and space. So she comes and goes, stays where she wants with who she wants, and I focus on me. There is bill type stuff that affect both of us that we have to work together on. I'm not asking her questions outside of bill type questions. I have to avoid doing any of the "caring" stuff like the texting.

So, basically, locking her out, forwarding her mail, etc etc isn't happening, it's where I'm at. I'm backing off to see if she's drawn back in. If she's drawn back in I'll take what she gives. If she wants to have an R with me then we will work through it the way DB says.

So I've been screwing up like crazy, have been for a long time, and I might still screw up....I obviously have some serious issues. I'm going to do what I can now without having any further scortched earth tatics.